You Will Be Your Husband’s Partner or Parent

The Choice is Entirely Up to You

Women, I am sick and tired of hearing how sick and tired we are.

In a marriage, common-law relationship or boyfriend-girlfriend situation, you should be your significant other’s partner, not your partner’s parent.

I also am in a partnership, a partnership, which is fair, but fair does not mean it is always fifty-fifty.

What I cannot stand, is when women lament about how their husband just cannot cook or clean, because they do not know how.

If your partner refuses to do their share around the house, what they are really saying is that they do not respect you enough to carry their own weight and assist you with yours; they do not care if their lack of effort adds stress to your life.

I am tired of women choosing to limit their life, with the excuse that their partner just cannot help and play fair in the household.

If your partner respects you, they will do what is fair of them, in all aspects of your relationship.

Women need to own their shit and understand their responsibility for the partner they have chosen and how they allow their partnership to run.

It is easy to say your husband loves you and I am not challenging you on that, but I will challenge you on if he respects you and sees you as his equal.

I am not trying to be the bad woman here, I simply want more for all of us.

Being lonely, while in a relationship, is ten times worse than being single.

Own your life and create the boundaries, which work best for you in your relationship.

Find out your biggest fear and work at overcoming it because your happiness exists there. The other choice is to settle, in a sub par relationship, where you feel undervalued and like a secondary citizen and if that is enough for you, by all means, please do not let me stand in your way, but don’t you dare complain about your life choices.

I write about issues that are near and dear to my heart, with the hope that my stories, experiences, and struggles may empower others: amanlitt.ca

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