Why You Keep Repeating the Same Mistake
How, By Focusing on the Bad, I Kept Repeating It

Sometimes we keep repeating the same mistake over and over again because we have not learned the lesson yet.
I am the poster child of tripping over the same rock, again and again, but I have stopped beating myself up over it.
It is one thing to try and do better, but it is another thing to keep festering on the mistake.
Some might see this as letting yourself off the hook too easy, but I have realized that this is not the case.
What do you keep tripping over? What is one major change that you would really like to do, but you keep failing at it?
What we need to do is identify our triggers, the ones which make it so easy to slip into a bad habit, even though we deep down really do not want to.
Sit back and think about the last time you let yourself down (utilizing a bad neural pathway). What was your environment like? What was your trigger? Where was your misstep?
Research, explore and journal about your last mistake, so that you can reread your thoughts, when you are feeling down.
Start developing a new neural pathway, through good behaviours. The more you repeat said positive steps, the more habitual they will become.
Tell people you love. Shout from the rooftops and find your tribe, who will help and carry you along, when you cannot carry yourself. Learn to beat the habitual practice of repeated bad behaviours by creating a list, you can go, when you feel the desire to fall back. Create the best environment for the good habit to foster in.
Everyone has their flaws, so never feel alone. Just because your hurtle might be different than my hurtle, it does not diminish what each of us is going through.
Let’s quit dwelling on the wrongs of yesterday and only focus on the fresh, full potential of today. We can learn from our mistakes, but if we obsess over them, I wonder if we are doomed, to be in waiting, for the repeated pattern to return.
Rather than focusing and spending all of our energy on when we made a misstep, lets focus on the times we made the right choice and how that felt.
Let’s focus on the good and maybe the energy, in the right energy, will propel us in the right direction. If we stop dwelling on the bad steps, we take away their power. When we constantly think about them, we are simply reinforcing said behaviours in our minds.
Remembering just one or two successes is a better way to break out of a failure loop.
What this has taught me,is what I have been focusing on has been all wrong.
I have been obsessing over my past mistakes, beating myself over them and constantly fearful of repeating them. Instead of spending all of my energy on all the great improvements I have been making, I have been picking away at my mistakes, allowing them to fester.
From today on, I am making it a daily practice to focus on the good. I want to congratulate myself for all the good things I did, plan for a productive, positive day, today and deal with tomorrow, in the exact same way, but not until tomorrow comes.
We need to start being our own best friends.
We would never harp on our friends the way we berate ourselves, so we need to start seeing ourselves the way we see our loved ones. Let’s be a bit easier on ourselves, focus on the good and learn from the bad.