Why I Will Not Have A Second Child

7 min readJan 13, 2023

I love being a mom.

I adore spending quality time with my daughter, each and every day.

However…parenting today is not what it was when I was growing up.

The role, expectations, income and out-of-home work pressures of mothers and wives have changed drastically.

What has not changed drastically is the role of fathers and husbands.

I am married, but I have a husband and not a wife. I need a wife-type partner if I were to have a second kid.

Though men today are doing more than their father’s generation, they are still not doing enough. I am done praising straight men for ‘helping’ around the house, taking care of their own children and supporting their female partners.

I have a supportive partner. He carries the workload around the house, is a fairly equal partner in parenting our child and understands my need for dedicated time and energy toward my personal and professional goals.


He does not understand what it takes to run a house.

He does not keep track of the…




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