Why Am I Always Last to Know?
My sister is getting married, she called me the other day to tell me that she booked a venue, that the wedding is in six months and she would love for me to attend. I did not know she was dating someone seriously, let alone engaged and was shocked to find out that she had already set a date. I feel so betrayed, which I know is not fair, but how could she not think to call me a bit earlier? I feel like I am the last one to know anything that is going on in her life and it is so frustrating and do not know what to do about it.
There are many reasons why someone may not confide in you, but anytime this happens, and it catches you off guard or hurts your feelings, it is a great opportunity for self-reflection.
If someone you love dearly does not call or inform you of a major life change, good or bad, you might want to reevaluate your relationship to said person.
I am not questioning their love for you, I am sure they care deeply for you, but there is something going on which is preventing them from being forthright with you.
People confide in individuals they trust.
Are you a trustworthy person? Or are you perhaps a bit loose-lipped? Your loved one might not have told you about proposing to their long-term girlfriend because they did not want you to accidentally let it slip out before the big day.
Reflect on your past experiences with being responsible for another person’s information. How did you handle it? Did you respect their privacy? Did you not respect the fact that their information was not yours to share with others?
If you are someone who tends to share other’s information inappropriately, this may be the reason people have stopped telling you about things in their life. It does not come from a place of harm, but rather, they have simply established a boundary because of your past precedent.