Threats from the Past

My First Online ‘Hater’

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Writing online has been a great experience for me, but not for everyone (or one person) who knows me.

I do not use people’s real names when I write. I write a lot of things in an edited reality, so that people do not know who I am really talking about.

I still try meticulously hard to be careful about what I write. I ensure I change names, environments, cities, anything that might harm a person or person I use to know.

It is still threatening to some people.

It does not scare me, when others are threatened by what I am doing, but it does make me wonder why they feel so threatened.

I think, when someone who knows me, reads my work and sees themselves in my story, sirens go off. They feel like their name is on a billboard or that I am shouting their personal business from a rooftop, but I do not feel that I am doing that.

What I have learned, in my limited lifetime, is that you have to lean into the fear. When someone tries to control you, lean into the fear. When someone tries to stop you, lean into the fear.

An ex of mine recently messaged me, threatening that if I write about my past relationship anymore, they would publicly humiliate me.

I also find it so funny that this person is so threatened by my measly blog, or ‘little blog’ as they phrase it. If it is so insignificant, why do they care what I write about at all?

Control is a dangerous disease. People who want to control you are actually afraid of you and your power. Do not let them own your life.

I own my side of the story. I know that I am not trying to cause anyone harm, but if they deem my writing harmful, that is their situation to deal with and definitely not mine.

Your story is just that; it is your story. Do not bow down to another person’s needs of you.

Live your life, tell your story, be your honest self.

Own your story and let them own theirs.

Is anyone else out there dealing with this? Any advice?

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I write about issues that are near and dear to my heart, with the hope that my stories, experiences, and struggles may empower others: amanlitt.ca

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