The difference between your perspective and mine is mine is backed by data:

https://www.americanprogress.org/article/breadwinning-mothers-continue-u-s-norm/

https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/75-001-x/10806/9291-eng.htm

https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.670439/full

I am not saying you are not a hands on great father, supportive spouse and successful at your job while doing all of that, but you cannot ignore the fact that the game is simply not setup for women to do the same, successfully. If it was, you would know just as many stay at home fathers as mothers. If it was, you would work with a equitable amount of women who are the breadwinners of their family but you do not.

That statment I made about male breadwinners coming home and shutting off is based on fact: https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/89-503-x/2015001/article/54931-eng.htm

Women do more of the work at home and child rearing , period. This is a societal problem.

Has there been improvements? Do more and more men see that the household work and childcare are shared responsibilities? Yes, has it increased in a manner where gender norms, workplace policies and societal inequities are not placing breadwinning women in a disadvantaged state? No.