Stop Using Your Age as an Excuse

You do not stop living because you have reached a certain age. A mortgage, marriage or children typically come with age, but along with your age, these are not anchors in your life, but rather, additions to your life.

As we grow older we tend to lament about things we should have done with our life, but I think that this a great cop out. If you want to be a lawyer, for real, go and get your law degree. If you want to own a bakery, create a business plan and start working towards your goal. If you want to get a promotion, speak with your supervisor and figure out what you need to do to be competitive for the next opportunity. If you want to be in a relationship, get out there and start dating and meeting new people. If you want to travel, make a plan and start saving.

If you really, truly want to achieve something, you will go out and do just that, rather than talking about how you missed your opportunity or chance in life. Think about something you have always wanted to achieve and ask yourself, what is holding you back?

We all have a similar basket of excuses to pull from: I have a full-time job that takes away all my time, I am married and super busy working on my relationship, I have kids and they are my whole world…the list goes on and on.

What I have learnt is that everything boils down to not wanting to spend the time, money or energy on the whatever it is you wish to achieve. I also think talking about how you could have done something is kind of romantic for people because it allows them the opportunity to talk about this great thing, without actually putting in the work.

The time will pass and you can either spend some of those passing minutes achieving a goal, which will be very fulfilling, or we can chill on the couch together and watch another episode on Netflix. If you do not want to do something, you will find valid excuses wherever you look in your life, but if you really want to do something, nothing will stop you because you will find the time, money and/or energy to accomplish your goal.

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