Stop Stealing from Your Own Story
We teach people how to treat us by what we allow, tolerate, encourage, challenge and focus on.
Stop shrinking yourself to make others feel comfortable.
Stop trying to take up as little space as possible to minimize your greatness in a room of mediocrity.
Stop trying to meet people’s expectations of how you should engage, present yourself and be in the world.
The moment you stop caring what other people think about you, the moment you start living this life for yourself.
Stopping to care what others think about you does not mean you are disrespectful, rude or self-absorbed.
It simply means it does not matter if people do not like you for who you are.
It simply means that you will not tolerate disrespect from other people.
It simply means you will not apologize, undermine or minimize what you are good at because others are not as skilled as you are.
It is so easy to fall into the trap of trying to please everyone and ending up not pleasing anyone, especially yourself.
You could be desperately trying to win over your boss, a person you are newly dating or an acquaintance you are trying to establish a close friendship with. Still, if the focus is on pleasing them and not meeting them at a common ground, you will typically fall short.
You start to take up space when you realize and understand that you are meant to. You are not meant to fit into the crevasses of other people’s lives, expectations and plans. You are expected to have a space to stand in that is yours and yours alone…and to not apologize for it.