No One Would Miss Me If I Disappeared

The Dangers of Not Dealing with Depression

It can be hard to watch someone drown when they refuse to grab a single raft within arm’s reach.

I love them but cannot live for them.

It can be tiring and some days, I simply cannot be leaned on because I too am in need of my own support.

‘I do not think a single person would miss me if I ceased to exist,’ was the matter-of-fact response from them.

When we feel that others do not love us enough, we should always stop and see if we are loving ourselves enough.

I am not strong enough to carry us both, but I am happy to lead the way.

When you are hurting, you will try to hurt others, hoping that they will somehow better understand the pain you are going through. More often than not, this tactic will only work to push your loved ones further away from you, not closer.

Our expectations of others let us down, not the lack of actions from others.

Eventually, my friend either saw my point of view or decided to appease me to move away from the conversation.

I have also been exactly where they are at.

You have to take the lead in your own health.

It is not even your partner’s job to single-handedly pull you out of a depressive state.

The next time you are thinking that no one loves you enough, that you do not have enough friends or are lonely a lot of time, ask yourself if you love yourself first. Ask yourself if you would miss you. Ask yourself if you are willing to do whatever it takes to help yourself not feel this way for a moment longer than you have to.

The next time you start dumping larger and larger expectations on those around you, realize that you might be inadvertently self-sabotaging.

I write about issues that are near and dear to my heart, with the hope that my stories, experiences, and struggles may empower others: amanlitt.ca

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