No Filter, No BS

My Real Self-Love Story

How I Learnt to Love Myself (for realsies!)

It was not pretty, let me tell you, but it sure as hell was wildly worth it.

I’ve been single for more than two years now. This is the longest I’ve ever been single in my adult life. I used to be a serial, serious-relationship person and always prioritized being in a relationship — without really questioning why.

But now, as I’m finally a priority to myself, I realize that I never even dreamt of being married as an adult. As a kid, I imagined children, studies, work — I envisioned being someone important, busy typing, writing, and researching. I’m grateful to say that’s what I get to do and get paid for regularly. But my wedding day? Married life? Never pictured it.

Think back to who you wanted to be as a kid — the dream life. Who and what is in it? Just as importantly, who or what isn’t?

We’re not all cut from the same cloth, so the fabric of my life might feel rough and rugged to some, or overly pristine and delicate to others. Find your fabric — focus on it, without questioning, explaining, or considering how it makes others feel. Only pay attention to how it makes you feel.