Martyr is one of my favourite terms in life. I love the use of it for people trying to prove how hard they work, in your article. People who love to work (workaholics) tend to lie and demean how much they work because they do not want the work taken away from them.

The one who speaks the loudest tends to get the least amount of work done. I have had periods in my working career where I have fallen prey to acting as a martyr. When I reflect back, I realize that I spent hours weekly complaining about how much I was doing, but I always seemed to have the time to vent. I worked late hours, but if I had been complaining less and doing more, I might have not had to work the way I was.

I have always loved working and juggling multiple roles all the time, but when you love everything that you are doing, it is not work, it is you. Workaholics need to be careful to ensure that they are taking care of themselves, but if you are, it can be a beautiful existence.

I love learning how to make an income from things I love and I have been fairly successful at it. I appreciate your words and the opportunity to reflect on how common complaining has become in our culture. We complain about our work, boss, partner, family, the weather, anything we can justify we will complain about to whoever is willing to listen.

We need to think about what we are complaining about and if (a) we are actually unhappy and need to reassess certain situations (b) enjoy complaining and like the airtime (c.) it is the only way we are able to connect with others and maybe figuring out more positive ways to interact with others.

Complaining periodically is healthy, but not when it is commonplace.

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