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It is excessively easy to care about what everyone around you thinks of you, but it is infinitely harder to stop giving a shit what anyone thinks, other than yourself.
I am on the journey of not giving a shit.
Not in a toxic, ‘I don’t care that you are going through a tough time because my life is about me, myself and I now’, but more in a, ‘I am not going to make your life a priority over my own.’
It is all about priorities people.
I am starting to practice saying, ‘I’m sorry, but that is not a priority for me at this time.’
No need to justify why you cannot help edit someone’s resume or meet them for dinner; simply say, ‘I have other priorities I need to focus on at this time, so, unfortunately, I will not be able to help/attend/support.’
The creepy thing is that this will piss a lot of people off…a lot.
You will see people’s true colours start to creep into the conversation when boundaries are brought up and maintained.
Not just one or two, like your partner or your mom, but neighbours, in-laws…
