In the Wrong Relationship? What to Do

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It can be very obvious when you realize that your relationship is no longer working for you. Some people ignore these feelings and ‘power through’ it. I have never really understood what they are ‘powering through’ because your relationship is supposed to be your sanctuary, if it isn’t, then why are you holding on to it so tightly?

Most people stay because they do not trust their feelings and question if they should follow through with a gut feeling.

There are simple ways to know if you are reacting emotionally or have realistically come to realize that your current relationship has reached the end of its road.

If all of these actions have been completed, truthfully and honestly, to your best efforts, maybe this relationship is not your life long relationship and it is time to start preparations to end it.

Do not put your age, marital status or future into the equation when determining whether or not to leave an unhealthy relationship. Do not talk yourself out of making the right decision for fear of being alone or of not finding anyone better. Make the decision solely based on the negative and positive aspects of the current situation and deal with the aftermath after.

Do not stay for the sake of society. No one cares if you have a shitty relationship because they usually do not know the full extent of the problems and they also do not have to live with it, day in and day out.

You have to live for yourself, so put yourself first and everyone and everything else will fall into place.

The fear of walking away is what keeps a lot of people in substandard situations; we become accustomed to the pain we do know and the pain we don’t know seems scary and potentially even worse.

If your source of sadness is via association to an individual, disassociating yourself from them will improve your life. I am sure there is a myriad of reasons you could fling my way as to why it is not easy to just walk away. It would cost money, yes, usually. It would be embarrassing, yes, failure of any kind usually has humiliation associated with it. It would be admitting defeat, yes, we all hate losing, but there is also a lot to gain.

You will realize the value of what you have gained when you are in your home, with a feeling of complete happiness, comfort, tranquility and joy from just being there. When the stress and strain of a dysfunctional partner goes away, you will realize you love yourself and your life so much. You will find the energy to rebuild and re-brand yourself, removing the skin associated with your past.

You will become a singular person and it is a magical feeling, when you have been a part of a painful partnership for so long.

You will realize that the power was within you all along, but you were so busy being unhappy and ‘powering though’ it, you could not see it.

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