I think you hit the nail on the head by saying people do not want to leave a lifestyle, and that is what keeps people together. Money or the lack of it, keeps a lot of people together, for much longer and if you add kids to that equation, you just got a lifelong sentence.
I think it can feel like everyone around you is living some shiny existence and you are the dullest of the bunch, but I just don’t buy it.
I think that society does a really good job of shaming and demeaning other people to make themselves feel better, because the very thing they are bragging about is an exaggeration. I also think the comments online saying things like, ‘I am married to my best friend,’ are downright weird. Why are you telling me? Should you not be telling your partner? Isn’t that personal?
The whole thing is weird to me and it feels like if the world is not applauding your marriage then it is not enough and if that is what you need for happiness in your partner, I feel for you.