I hear you on this David and it drives me crazy! I hear women all the time telling me their husband doesn’t know how to load a dishwasher properly, or fold laundry properly and you’re absolutely right about the control piece. I honestly do feel some people do not want to relinquish control, but they sure do love complaining about how busy they are. It is complicated and relationships are complicated, so I always ask myself, ‘Do I really care that the dishwasher is not loaded how I do it or am I just grateful it’s loaded?’ I really try to lean on gratitude because we get enough hate in life.