How to Work with Your Spouse’s Vices

News Alert: You’re Not Perfect Either

Aman

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“Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.”

― Katharine Hepburn

Marriage is hard when you try to control who you are married to.

Marriage is hard when you try to force your marriage to fit the ideal in your head.

Marriage is hard when you think you can make your marriage into exactly what you want it to be.

It takes two hands to clap and it takes two to make a good (or bad) marriage.

Your way is not the right way, but if you believe it to be the only way, you are bound to have a lot of issues in your happily ever after story.

Just because your spouse performs tasks differently than you would, does not make them wrong. ‘Live and let live’ can go a long way in life.

Stop trying to change your partner.

You cannot love your spouse and control them at the same time.

You married who you married, so let’s not focus on their weaknesses, but rather applaud, highlight and encourage their strengths.

Quit trying to make your partner into someone who they are not.

Do not try to force them into living the life you would like them to live, simply because you believe it to be the ‘right’ way; if their system is working for them, let them be.

The important question is why do you want to change them?

If you have children, a pet or another priority that requires you to change your lifestyle to care for another, the request could be completely acceptable. However, if its simply because you wish for your partner to change a habit that bothers you, you should reconsider the battle.

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Aman

I write about issues that are near and dear to my heart, with the hope that my stories, experiences, and struggles may empower others.