How to Get Your Husband to Do the Dishes

It is a Thursday evening and you are exhausted.

Their threat is real and you know it.

You longingly and loathingly look at him.

Or maybe he just doesn’t give a shit who does the dishes, just so long as it does not infringe on his playtime.

Where the hell is your playtime?

If this is you and you have felt very much heard yourself in this narrative thus far, my questions to you are:

Have you ever asked your husband to do the dishes?

What have you accepted in your relationship?

What type of marriage have you allowed to be created?

When did your relationship go from exciting to excruciating?

Maybe it all started with those damn dishes.

What would happen if your partner did those dishes tonight?

Go right now, ask your husband to pause that game for five minutes.

If you have had a civil, respectful, honest conversation with your partner about how you feel, there should be no need to read on because they are up and doing the dinner dishes.

If your partner cannot adjust their life to make time to support you bettering your own, you have a problem.

So my (honest) answer to you is, quit blaming the dishes for your problems because they are not to blame.

If you are not the most valuable person to yourself, you are teaching others that they can treat you as though you are worthless.

By creating boundaries in your life and having expectations of your partner, you can infinitely grow your daily happiness.

Do not let your demise be the dishes, you are bigger than that, but it will take discomfort, honesty and rigid boundaries in order to be successful.

I write about issues that are near and dear to my heart, with the hope that my stories, experiences, and struggles may empower others:

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