How to Get Your Husband to Do Housework

A Three-Step Process to Get Your Spouse to Shape Up

The reasons for these relationship frustrations are all unique and strikingly similar at the same time. The bottom line is that these individuals are seemingly unaware or unbothered by how their actions or lack of action is impacting their partner and household.

Fighting with your spouse impacts your daily happiness, mental health, ability to engage with others, energy to practice self-care, your sleep and an endless list of other things.

So what do we do?

I say we do nothing.

In a relationship, everything is not always going to be equal, but some form of equity should be sustainable.

Next, kill them with kindness.

Once a foundation of gratitude has been laid out, let them know how they can help you be more successful.

If done from a place of honesty, respect and kindness, this process can work wonders in your marriage, but take things slow.

When your relationship is going through a difficult time, remember that the person you are in disagreement with, angry at or resentful towards is your teammate, not your opponent. The sooner you two start seeing one another as allies instead of opponents, the stronger your relationship will become.

If these tactics do not work, I think that the problem is much bigger and troublesome than laziness.

Be there for your partner, cheer them on and awknowledge their positive changes. The journey of marriage is long and cumbersome, but if we are willing to adapt, understand and be empathetic the good days will heavily outweigh the bad ones.

I write about issues that are near and dear to my heart, with the hope that my stories, experiences, and struggles may empower others:

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