An ex of mine has been antagonizing me online.
Sending drunken late night emails, instant messages and everything and anything in between. I have tried really hard to not reply to anything, but there is only so much one can take of non stop bullshit.
That is not true though…I did not really try that hard at all.
If I was honest with myself, I would know, that a part of me, which I do not like to associate with a lot, appreciated the fact that they were still stuck in the rut of me. Sneaking through the interweb, to catch a sneak of my life, how pathetic are they?
How pathetic am I that I did not do everything in my power to control what I was receiving?
Once I got honest with myself, I realized that the drama was an excuse for me to be a bullshit individual.
When those random messages would come up, it would allow me the room to be a drama queen, make the day about me and act out, because I was being hurt.
I cannot agree with that type of behaviour anymore, because that is not the person I wish to be.
I do not want to engage with someone who is not beneficial to my life, future and well-being. If I had wanted to continue to engage with this person, they would not be my ex, now would they?
I blocked them.
I sent all of their emails to spam. I have meticulously gone through every social media site and email account. I will no longer be ‘surprised’ in the morning, with something I do not need, does not better my life and is, at the very least, only a gratification that this person is so pathetic, that they cannot simply let me go.
By engaging with the bullshit, or even simply reading it and gossiping about ‘what a loser’ my ex is, there is nothing positive to gain from the situation.
If they need to send their words into the ether, they still can, but they are simply being blocked from being received by me.
Be honest with yourself. What are some pieces of garbage you are not throwing away?
Are you one of those people who creeps their ex(es) online?
I have never been a part of this club, and I think you should join me on the other side. I do not think anything comes from mocking, gossiping or obsessing about someone’s life you should have moved on from.
Maybe you are like me, who had an ex lurker, who you have not appropriately dealt with.
I can admit that, until today, I had not done everything in my power to keep this person’s online terror at a safe distance. I kind of liked the drama of the fact that they were still ‘so obsessed’ with me. I have moved on and I hope that they too can one day move on too. Hopefully, me blocking them from all of my social media sites will help them with the process.
Start being honest with the emotional garbage living in your life.
The more you simplify your life, the more time you will have for the things of value. The more your declutter the drama from your day, the more meaningful your day will be.
Let’s start being honest with what we can do to minimize the drama in our days because I think we could all be doing a little bit more.