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Question: I work in a very small office. There are only two other women who work with me and we all report to the same supervisor, and most of our work is quite collaborative in the sense that we are all focused on the same strategic goals. We have independent work, but amalgamate a lot and share a lot of work as a unit.
Lately, I have felt really disrespected by one of my colleagues. When I first started in the department, she was wonderful and I relied on her a lot to get up to speed and I really appreciated her support. Recently, however, things have changed; the other day, she yelled at me, in front of other people from neighbouring departments, for not citing her as a collaborator on a document we had worked on for our boss.
The reason I had not cited her was because I felt there was nothing to cite her on. I had submitted a one-page document for my supervisor to take to a meeting, which outlined the main points which she needed to draw attention to at the meeting. Yes, we did collaborate and generate the list together, but this is a task which either her or myself have done together numerous times in the past, and then one or the other has emailed in the submission. I had not realized that she would have taken this action negatively.
Prior to this event, she also had accused me of disregarding her work/life balance by texting…
