How My Divorce Defined Me Because I Did Not Defend Myself

I feel like my life has a huge sever in it; my life before my divorce and life after it.

It took me a long time to become comfortable with my identity, as a divorced person, and I still do not disclose it to every person I meet on the street willingly.

Now, here I am, in the damaged boat, and all of my youthful judgements of others are coming to haunt me.

It takes a lot of guts to get divorced.

You have to let people talk shit and not listen.

I also learned that not everyone who was my friend was my real friend.

I dove headfirst into redefining who I was and making a better, shinier version of myself. I needed to prove that I ‘won’ because I am more successful post versus pre-divorce.

I lost myself in this process.

I am learning that failure does not make you a bad person.

Do not be afraid of starting new, because the idea of the unknown is scary.

I was young and inexperienced.

Divorce can be tough, totally, but do you know what is tougher?

I know a lot of people who are making their marriage work and I try to support them as best I can.

I understand that divorce is not a real option for some people, for a plethora of reasons, but I am so, so, so glad that I am not one of those people.

Yes, the process broke me, but the journey, since then has been so eye opening.

Do not like your life?

Best of luck to you on the journey of love.

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