Hello and thank you so much for your insightful response.

The definition of victim blaming is: Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially responsible for the harm that befell them. The study of victimology seeks to mitigate the perception of victims as responsible. There is a greater tendency to blame victims of rape than victims of robbery in cases where victims and perpetrators know one another.

Well…..my article is not exactly about victim blaming, it is about women, who willing choose to allow their partner’s bullshit ways to impede their life. My article is not directed to women in emotional or physically abusive relationships, so I do not think victim blaming is playing a part here.

What I am talking about is women who use their substandard partner as an excuse as to why they are not their best selves.

You can get that promotion. I don’t care if you have no kids or one hundred, if you have a partner who supports you, you can make it happen.

What I am talking about in this article is the way people side step their ambitions by blaming their ‘responsibilities.’ I just don’t agree with it. Unless you are in an abusive relationship, which is something that I am not educated enough to talk about then, why not ask your partner to level up?

Tell them that you can’t buy the groceries, or clean the washrooms, or get the kids ready for school because you have your own priorities. I am not ‘victim blaming’ that is something I would ABSOLUTELY not do, but I am questioning women, who are in ‘healthy, normal’ relationships’ who use their partner as their scapegoat as to why they are not doing more in their personal or professional life.

If you are in a relationship and are doing all of the household work, you need to question your relationship because your partner probably just doesn’t respect you enough to level up.

I understand that women do not walk into a relationship expecting to do it all, but if you are willingly doing so, you need to take some ownership of the responsibility and quit blaming others for your lack of advancement on your own personal endeavours.

You teach others how to treat you, so are you treating them to respect you or walk all over you?

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