Fight, Flight or Freeze? What To Do When Your Relationship Is Not Working

All of us have a natural instinct, when we are pushed up against a wall, some of us are fighters, others runners and some of us, do absolutely nothing at all.

Take this same scenario and reflect on your romantic relationship. Are you a fighter? Do you run for the hills? Or do you do nothing at all?

Fighting it out:

Flying away:

Freezing (for awhile):

If you are going through a really stressful time, huge change or positive personal development, wait it out. Sometimes, when we are making big life changes we are inclined to change everything and anything and all at once.

There is a time for all of the three reactions, but not every situation is the same. Take the time to assess what step is best for the specific situation you are dealing with. The safest best, for me, has always been to freeze, before fighting about something that is not worth it or leaving something that is worth sticking around for.

I write about issues that are near and dear to my heart, with the hope that my stories, experiences, and struggles may empower others: amanlitt.ca

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