Control, in any form of a relationship, is damaging. Parents have the best of intentions, but control through fear of experience is fickle. Many of my best learned lessons have been through experience.
I had strict parents growing up and our relationship was tough, when I became an adult and pushed every boundary they had created.
It hurt our relationship for a long time, but I understand their intention. They were scared and wanted to shield me from the world they did not agree with, but that only made me wonder even more.
I am not a parent and am questioning whether anyone can do parenting ‘right’ because it seems to be such a complicated relationship. Parenting is the biggest job one can ever do and the only one with no clear guidelines.