Blocking My 90% Amazing Friend

And the Why Behind the 10% That Broke Us

I stopped talking to a friend recently whom I adore.

I love this person — seriously — and hated having to ice them out, but I now love me more than their approval, validation, or acceptance.

What am I talking about?

This person is the bee’s knees. They are funny, witty, smart; we share the same professional and academic career path, they’re a parent too, and I’ve known them for well over a decade.

What was the problem?

It was what I initially thought was small, insignificant, or something I could ignore. But upon reflection, self-growth, and the journey to self (unconditional) love, I realized it was not fair to me. I matter just as much as anyone else, or so I am learning. Don’t be hard on yourself if you’re still working on this — I’m a woman in her forties still trying to figure out this formula.

So, what was the problem?

My fabulous friend is happily married to a wonderful human being, and they have an amazing life. I, too, have an amazing life, but I do not check the “married” box.

I really like being single — it’s allowed me to flourish in all other areas of my life. By…