Terrible word, I know, but it is relevant.
Women who are loud, outspoken, assert their boundaries, demand respect and know their worth are seen as bitches. Men who do this are seen as successful. This works for both the professional and personal world.
I have always asserted my strength in the professional sphere.
I do not care if you like me, but I want to make sure that people who work with me are well supported and respected and sometimes you have to be a bitch to get that done.
Being a bitch in my personal life has had its ups and downs.
You are seen as a ‘ball buster,’ a woman who ‘wears the pants in her relationship,’ or (somehow) unfeminine.
It is still uncouth for a woman to speak her mind, she is somehow less attractive to (some) men.
I do not think that they view you as unattractive, I think deep down you are shattering their worldview and it scares them. Women seeing themselves as equal to men is a scary idea for men who like being on top.
Some people have shown a lot of surprise when they learn my love of cooking and baking.
As though you cannot have socially marked feminine and masculine qualities, at the same time, in the same person.
Just because you think I am a bitch, it is not going to change how I think. I tried that once, for far too long, and I am taking my power back.
I thought, for mistakes I have made, I could not defend myself and let certain people in my life treat me and talk to me in a manner in which I never speak to them.
That period of my life is over and the bitch is back. I am reaffirming my boundaries with people and they are hating it!
I even blocked someone’s phone number from my phone because of a barrage of aggressive, accusatory texts they would not cease sending me. They know how to reach me, if they truly do need to, but I’ll be damned if I will be spoken to like that anymore.
I said ‘no’ to someone and it blew their mind.
They fell into a psychotic rage and demanded I do what they asked of me. I said ‘no’ again and told them that I will not do something I do not want to do.
Am I losing relationships?
I lost a couple this week, but I do not care. My mental health is far too important. I cannot keep jeopardizing who I am for the sake of bullshit relationships.
If you do not like the new me, leave, you have no obligation to stay in my life. If I do not like you, I will be sure to find the nearest exit as well.