Are Feelings Fiction?

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There are endless quotes verifying that we can feel anything into fruition: If we feel it, it shall come is the motto, right?

How much validity do our feelings really have though?

How did that turn out?

Seriously, how did that turn out for you?

We always recommend to others to share their feelings, but most often, when you tell someone that they hurt your feelings, your feelings end up in an even shittier situation than they were in before the truth.

Why be honest then?

I do not really think so, but this is based on my own past precedent.

I have realized that all the times I pretended not to give a shit, things went my way. The less I looked like I cared, the more others cared to fit my needs.

What I have realized is that when I let down my walls, when I allow them to dip low enough, for someone to easily sneak in, I end up hurt.

I feel that feelings (ha ha) are at the root of Pandora’s box: if you are able to talk about them, you can overcome them, but are seen as weak, however, if you do not talk about them, and learn to live while ignoring them, you are seen as strong and successful, but are unhappy on the inside (but only you see that, so who cares right?).

Which version of life is better?

I am not sure which answer is better or more appropriate in our lives, but what I do know is that you have to choose one side and commit. If you keep flip, flopping from one concept to the next, you will drive yourself mad.

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