Why A Woman Demanding Space Scares People

3 min readJul 9

A woman demanding space is a dangerous thing.

A woman demanding her space is a scary thing, for many.

A woman refusing to limit or shrink her space makes some uncomfortable, and angers others.

A woman taking up even more space is considered selfish and unfeminine.

If a strong, assertive woman, who knows what she wants scares, angers, or intimidates you, it only means we are succeeding.

If a woman advocating for her own needs is considered negative, that is a you problem, not an us problem.

Women have eaten last for far too long, and it is time we start treating ourselves the way we treat every person, animal, priority, task and event, which is a priority for others.

It means we are shifting the societal structure in a way where women are no longer awarded for eating last or if they get the chance to eat at all.

I am no longer staying silent.

It has been scientifically proven that men’s longevity and overall well-being increases after marriage and having children; women’s longevity decreases…now that is something that is truly scary to me.

Women who are not married and are not mothers are happier than those that are; this, too, is scientifically proven.

Do you want to know why I think this is true? Traditional markers of what should make us happy were handed down to us from a society built upon are simply the assumed pathway to happiness. By observation, a lot of people walking this path seem…miserable.

Why are we not talking about this more?

We should be challenging the status quo and figuring out the substantial shifts we need to make in order to challenge the traditional paradigms handed down to us.

A traditional marriage structure, now that more and more women are making more money outside of the house, some even being the breadwinners, while gender roles are staying primarily the same within the household in regards to parenting and household management, is a problem and women are suffering, burning out and are being overworked.


I write about issues that are near and dear to my heart, with the hope that my stories, experiences, and struggles may empower others.