Do Not Encourage the Incorrigible

“That’s it, this is the last week of lazy Nelly….starting on Sunday it’s a five-mile run a day, minimum, for me.”

“I’m tired of this job, seriously, this is the last day, tomorrow I am actually, seriously going to quit; enough is enough.”

“I am going to do it, seriously this time. I’m going to write that book by the end of the year, no, the end of the month.”

“I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired. I’m done eating like shit, today is it….diet starts tomorrow.”

“Good for…

When we think about self-improvement, I think a lot of us think about dramatic, drastic changes in ourselves, lives and outlook.

We do not imagine that the road to self-improvement could be simple.

We do not imagine that the road to self-improvement could be simply adding a ten-minute walk into our…

“Just you wait until you have kids of your own,” my aunt chided softly, but ever-so-surely, “You will lose this ammunition you have for all your little side-projects.”

I looked at my her quizzically and asked, “Why do you act as though the person stops being, learning or growing simply because they become a parent?”

“Because they do,” she snapped back, with the confidence only a boomer can exhibit, “like I said, when you have kids, you will stop doing so damn much.”

I wish I could say that she said all of this while chain-smoking, with hot rollers in her hair, but that is simply not true. …

News Alert: You’re Not Perfect Either

Marriage is hard when you try to control who you are married to.

Marriage is hard when you try to force your marriage to fit the ideal in your head.

Marriage is hard when you think you can make your marriage into exactly what you want it to be.

It takes two hands to clap and it takes two to make a good (or bad) marriage.

Your way is not the right way, but if you believe it to be the only way, you are bound to have a lot of…

Back to the way things were…

The ‘new’ normal….

Back to reality….

Whatever you want to call the future after all restrictions are released and COVID-19 is slowly transforming into a fading memory versus the consistent, daily reality which it is, nothing will change for the better unless you do.

I have been on a journey of self-improvement for as long as I can remember, and perhaps even longer than that.

Pre-COVID-19, I was becoming exhausted with facing this daily journey of self-improvement because I kept waiting for a finish line to arrive.

I kept expecting the journey of self-improvement to come to a nice, clean culmination and for this perfect version of myself, who never screamed, judged, mourned, regretted, or…

During this period of extreme uncertainty, it can be difficult to find the motivation to get out of bed in the mornings.

You may be stressed about your relationship, finances, job stability or all three and the weight of the world makes it hard to face the day.

As tempting as it may be to wallow, waste away and be weary right now, I would strongly advise against these temptations.


The world is never going to go back to the way it was.

We are silly if we are sitting here, waiting for things to go back to normal. Nothing is ever going to go back to normal after this. …

During times of uncertainty, stress and chaos most people’s first concern is ‘How will I keep myself and my family safe?’

Safe usually entails keeping food on the table, a roof over everyone’s head and a sense of serenity within the household. In order to ensure safety for one’s family, the biggest source of stress comes from money (or lack thereof).

Money, none of us seem to ever have enough of it, but we all seem to spend it quite effortlessly. We never seem to get that savings account to a…

Instagram, Facebook, movies and television shows have given us this false perception of marriage.

We believe that everyone, except for us, is living these fabulous lives, with perfect, doting partners, having seamless, stress-free lives. This is not the case; everyone I know deals with the issues throughout their relationship.

It is silly for us to compare our real life to someone else’s filtered, fabricated and false Instagram feed, if we do, we are always going to feel like we are losing. It is even sillier to think that your marriage is going to be in a permanent state of joy and celebration; that shit would be exhausting.

Could you imagine if that were the…

A Three-Step Process to Get Your Spouse to Shape Up

I hear it all the time, ‘My husband does not do enough around the house,’ ‘My partner does not spend enough time with the kids,’ or ‘My wife spends way too much money.’

There is nothing worse than having an amazing day, suddenly having a terrible spat with your partner, over something small, stupid or silly, and then…

You Do Not Have to Work Harder, but Much Smarter…

As a person who always has multiple things on the go, I am ruthless with how and where I spend my time.

Time is a finite resource, but we use it (or abuse it) as though it is not.

You will realize that spending a day binge-watching a subpar Netflix series is actually extremely detrimental.

You will realize that putting off exercise for one more day is not as harmless as you used to perceive it to be.

You will realize that ignoring that phone call from a loved one is actually much more selfish than you…


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